heart of the matter...

It's so easy to give opinions and remarks on the things that we know nothing about and believe that it make ourselves look smarter. Somebody told me that it makes more sense to ask someone who's not involve to get a reasonable answer if you're looking for truth, but i beg to disagree. Some of them may give you fiction instead of facts. There's a vast difference between seeing and perceiving, believing and of feeling.

Some people can be really judgmental, they often measure somebody's worth base on your actions and norms of the society. If you don't follow those norms then there must be something wrong with you. If you fell in love to the real essence of the word to a person who is married you'll hear a lot of negative things from other people. They will even call you names no Webster Dictionary could ever define. If you weren't able to finish school, you'll be subject to different kinds of stories enough to win the Pulitzer prize award. If you have been convicted of a crime and served some time in jail they will stay away from you like as if you have leprosy or a horrible disease.

Its hard to explain and defend yourself to people who'd already made up their minds about you. They will only see the things they want to see and believe the ones they want to believe. There might be some people who's willing to see the other side of the coin and give you all the benefits of the doubt. But sometimes you miss that opportunity to clean your name because you're too afraid to try and to be rejected even more. You probably think its just a waste of time or you don't want things to get more complicated.

So, everyday you drag yourself to live your life and keep all the hurts inside while your silence is being taken as an evidence against you and this kind of stories are history that will keep repeating itself because you haven't deal with the heart of the matter. While there is truth in saying we are not accountable to anyone but God, it does help that we deal with the issue once the opportunity is given to us. People may or may not believe you, but a good name is always worth a try.